He Vanishes Always. Should I Simply Tell Him Not To Ever Call Me Personally?

Reader Question:

Hi David,

I’m 60 years of age, extremely healthy, very active, and a rather great lady. I had a tremendously cold marriage for over 30 years. We joined hook up with milfs with Match.com the moment We separated, had a couple of times (they were awful), then one popped up. I’ve outdated him on and off for just two decades. The guy said he really likes me personally, but the guy disappears always. We see him for one or two days, and he’s eliminated for just two to three months. He had been hitched for 3 decades and has now three young children (exactly like myself) and states he has commitment problems and is witnessing a therapist about this. His partner cheated on him and he features drug and liquor problems.

Must I think of this man to get poisonous? If he contacts me personally once again (that we believe he’ll), must I make sure he understands never to contact myself anymore, or must I merely let him know I enjoy being with him but have always been making my personal choices available to go out other people?

-Nancy (Ca)

David Wygant’s response:

Should you consider he toxic?  No.

I’d think about him becoming a booty telephone call.

Which is all he or she is.  He is a booty phone call.

He doesn’t want to make.  He is discovering a lot of excuses, and yet he wants to come more than and fool around.

When a guy really does that, all he’s performing is utilizing you as an intimate partner.

Confront him on it if you prefer, but a guy like him can certainly make upwards some sort of tale to not be take off sexually.

Thus move forward and  discover somebody who deserves you.

The amount of time you’ve been throwing away contemplating him and being with him is time you’ll be satisfying a new guy.

Benefit from the process!